Ego: Good or not?

[dewinged]

Someone once said something that caught me: The most attractive a person things they are, the less attractive they actually are.

This throws me. I'll explain.

I have The Party tonight. 10 PM, a night of gaming and food and no alcohol. Not what I want out of a party, but I know I need to get out, and the person throwing the party for themselves (tacky, much?) is inviting other friends outside the gaming group. Maybe someone, maybe not.

But...well. See, I went shopping yesterday, and in the midst of finding out I lost 2 inches off my waist from dieting, I got a few things out of Eddie Bauer.

And...I wonder how it reflects on me. Because, if I'm in nice clothes, and I'm all cleaned up and shaved and groomed, with my contact lenses in...I think I look pretty damn good. Now you guys know how I usually see myself. But...I do look nice, when I put the effort into it.

But, I see that statement I talked about at the top of this post, and I wonder...

Comments

[foomf.livejournal.com]

There is a difference beween vanity and honest self-assessment.
You have a great deal of Catholic Guilt. Speaking as an Episcopalian, where we have all the ritual but only half the guilt, I can say with confidence that you have been hypersensitized to vanity.
It's OK to recognize that you can look good. It's OK to dress with the intention of enhancing those looks - despite the character I play, I do not follow the Amish value system that says that 'plain is better' - if God had such a preference, we would not see peacocks, robins, flowers would not be so extravagant... there is as much vanity in self-revulsion as in narcissism.
So, as long as you don't decide that someone is unworthy of you because of your gorgeousness, I'd say you have nothing to worry about.